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Christopher Van Name's avatar

A life.

Michael Horvich's avatar

I'll wait then until PART II 😀

AsukaHotaru's avatar

Not more, not less. Just different. So quiet, so plain, so human, and then not more, not less. Just different. I don't know why, but these words kept on repeating themselves inside my head even after minutes reading this piece of yours...

Sara da Encarnação's avatar

funny as they stayed with me too. "not more, not less, just different"..... the way he said it, looking to a place my eyes couldn't reach. Was quite an experience :)

Michael Horvich's avatar

I am retired and the above doesn't apply to me. That is OK. It feels like the man interviewed has dementia in that he cannot process his life like he used to. Fondly, Michael

Sara da Encarnação's avatar

Speaks to himself... if speaks at all. Mostly he doesn't. Sits on the bench feeding the pigeons. Probably thinking about life.

Michael Horvich's avatar

Do not know anyone like that. What must it be like to live so inside oneself? Did something cause him to be that way? Thanks Sara. Fondly, Michael

Sara da Encarnação's avatar

I don’t know… I don’t know him except by seeing him every time I go to the village. always at the same hour, feeding the pigeons with a crackers pack. Sometimes speaking to self, low voice, never disturbing. Is someone I can’t avoid to notice because seems at the same time in peace and in pain.

Michael Horvich's avatar

WOW. Have you ever thought of ingratiating yourself by sitting down next to him and striking up a conversation? Could be PART II of this story. Fondy, Michael

Sara da Encarnação's avatar

In fact was exacly what I did. :) he looked suspicious, but I suppose he got used to see me too, carrying my bags from the car to the supermarket :) so accepted to talk a bit.

From Tender Ground's avatar

This spidered through my head… the words , the matter of fact way… the blank look… this(I’m going to use the word prompted, not triggered) this reflection of your outstanding article.

Thank you for such thought provoking words 🧡

Blessing or Betrayal

Our minds work in a way that

doesn’t promote truth.

When we think about

retirement or aging, we see it

as we are in the current moment…

just older. We don't want to,

or can’t, rationalize what the

changes are that could alter

the future. The brain

imagines the same self,

simply further along. It

doesn’t prepare us for

different.

And different is what arrives.

Not less. Not more. Just

different…the mind landing

at a new place, finding itself

unfamiliar.

The caring grows quieter.

Relief or loss. Perhaps both.

An uncertainty we don't see

coming.

And the routines… the ones

we thought held us back, now

become a way to remain in

life. Yet we are too tired to do

them. We don’t always get to

choose.

These are the unknowns that

scare me.

I often ponder if aging

is a blessing or a betrayal. I

suppose that’s the part we

don’t know.

And it's coming for us

whether we are ready or

not.

Maybe less, maybe more,

definitely different.

—FromTenderGround 🧡